Sunday, March 31, 2013
My grandmother set her own hair every week until she couldn't manage it anymore.
"It's getting harder and harder," she confided to me as she neared her 90th year. "I have to hold my hands over my head for so long, my fingers start to cramp. And my strength is going. I can hardly twist the wires."
The other day, my mother-in-law Gen told me how "an older woman's thing is to go have her hair done every week." At first glance, one might consider this ritual a luxury, a way to pamper oneself in old age by letting someone else fuss over your hair.
But then I remember my grandmother, how she struggled to keep going as long as she could, how the weekly salon visits might just be a necessary adjustment to the realities of growing old.